On World Autism Acceptance Day, Michelle Bale shares her story

12-year-old Joshua from Clacton on Sea has attended Doucecroft School since April 2021 after a lengthy battle to find a school that could meet his needs.

His mother, Michelle said:

“His previous mainstream school did their best to support him, but they weren’t equipped to meet his needs. Joshua’s behaviour became increasingly challenging and aggressive, and eventually, the school could no longer cope, and this led to multiple suspensions. We were facing the very real prospect of permanent exclusion. It was overwhelming for us both.”

Joshua was placed in a specialist school provision that helps children with social, emotional and mental health challenges.

“At this point, I had to give up my career to become his full-time carer. It was an incredibly difficult time for both of us. Joshua wasn’t happy and I knew this wasn’t the right place for him.

“I was done watching my son struggle in a system that wasn’t helping him. I decided to take matters into my own hands to find a school that could truly support him. That’s when I found Doucecroft School. The moment I saw it, I knew it was where he needed to be. But the council refused to place him there. I wasn’t taking no for an answer and eventually Joshua started his new journey in April 2021.

“It wasn’t an instant fix—there were still challenges, but the difference was clear: we were a team. The staff understood him, saw the signs when he was becoming dysregulated, and helped him manage his emotions. Over time, he’s learned to recognise his own triggers, taking himself to the quiet room to calm down before rejoining the class.

“His confidence has grown in ways I never imagined. The other day, he asked to go up to the post office counter on his own to be served – a seemingly small act, but a huge milestone for him.

“I don’t know what the future holds for Joshua—whether he will ever live independently or what his adult life will look like. There’s uncertainty, but I know Doucecroft is preparing him well. And no matter what, I will always be in his corner, fighting for him.

“To other parents struggling to navigate the SEND system: don’t give up. It’s exhausting, and you shouldn’t have to fight this hard—but the system is broken, and no one will advocate for your child the way you will. I feel incredibly fortunate that Joshua has finally found his place. We have a happy child, a supportive school, and a brighter future ahead.”

Doucecroft School headteacher, Samantha Lawrence said:

“We are here to help families like Michelle and Joshua and are proud to have Joshua as part of our school community and see the progress he is making.

“At Doucecroft, we have lots of experience helping children with all kinds of needs and we know that families need support too. Our Wellbeing Team helps families find local services, get financial advice, and offers emotional support.

“We create a safe, nurturing and supportive place where learners can succeed, become more confident and grow their independence.”